Advice to My 25 Year Old Self

Oct 06, 2022

Written by Laurie Furber

|image courtesy of British Vogue photograph by Peter Lindbergh|

I have a daughter who's graduated from college & is working her first job. My 19 year old niece is visiting for the summer. My youngest is now 14. And at the shop every day I am surrounded by women who are about half my age. So I have been thinking a lot lately about life, lessons, the things that have made me who I am & the hard-won wisdom that comes with life experience.

I have made some stupid mistakes & wasted precious time being resentful, or angry or hurt. But I have (mostly) learned from my mistakes & try to always strive to be better. So to my 25 year old self, I would like to share some important lessons...

Listen to your mom. She's right more than she's wrong

Your parents & grandparents (& your in-laws) had full, interesting lives before you arrived. Ask them to share their stories

Make a habit of saying yes to things you're not sure you can do. You'll surprise yourself

Spend more time on your skin care than on your makeup.

The health of your mind, body & soul is a lifetime investment. Don't let it get away from you

Be generous...with your praise, with your time, with your kindness, with anything you have to share

Someone else's success is not your failure. Be happy for the people around you when something good happens to them

Tell people what you want them to know...if you're sorry, say it, if you love someone, say it, if you're angry, say it

Regrets & grudges hold you in the past. Find a way to resolve whatever it is, or just decide it's not important to you. And then move on. Forever

Invest in nice underwear. It will give you more subtle confidence than anything else in your closet

So to all the beautiful young women in my life -- please take what you need from this list, listen to your mom, and I love you.

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